Flow to Freedom...
I believe in the power of specialised support to free & heal from Narcissistic Abuse. I will guide you along the rocky path towards finding your true self & to a future filled with freedom & joy.
I specialise in supporting men & women navigate life living with, or having previously lived with, a Narcissist. I will support you wherever you are on your journey: navigating daily life, separation, divorce, custody, finances, healing from trauma & more.
I also work with men & women who are struggling in any area of life. I help them find the answers they are looking for, supporting them on their journey to deep fulfilment, purpose & contentment.
Freedom
from control
Freedom
from manipulation
Freedom
from anxiety
Do You Feel Like You Are Losing Your mind?
Do you feel like you are going in circles? Are you questioning your reality?
Many people don't even realise that they are in a Narcissistic Abuse relationship: they might feel that things just aren't quite right but are unable to put a finger on exactly what is wrong, or that everyone's life is a bit like this. Others feel that they are going round in circles, that they are losing their mind, or that they are not really sure who they are anymore.
You may not have even heard the word "narcissism" before, or perhaps you have done endless research on the subject but still can't quite work out why you feel frustrated, anxious, stuck. You may be feeling that everything should be fine as you are no longer with the Narcissist...and yet you are still somehow tethered to their demands. (Life is just easier if you do what they say, yes?)
You may be feeling that life is good and that your partner is lovely much of the time. The Narcissist has an incredible ability to keep a lid on their true personality whilst life is serving them - even for many years. They also often have the ability of "doing good things". They might be a nurse, a social worker, a policeman, do volunteer work, or lots of wonderful things for the community. Don't be fooled by this. It is a deliberate choice to ensure that people think highly of them, and it makes it far more difficult for anyone to be able to label them as abusive. It’s all a facade.
Are you still unsure? Still doubting? Still...confused? Read on...
Do You Feel That You Don't Quite Relate?
But yet something is telling you something is not quite right?
It is really important to understand that even if things seem "good" much of the time it doesn't mean that you are not in a Narcissistic Abuse relationship. It is so common to reason away their behaviour: they've behaved badly because they're tired...or because the children have been a nightmare...or because they've been traumatised as a child and they're (insert whiney voice here) "a victim so you should be more understanding of me"...or because they've got other priorities such as work/studying/something else that supersedes your work/tiredness/sanity and entitles them to behave as they wish...(insert rolling eyes emoji here).
The Narcissist is able to keep their true colours hidden as they have spent so much time manipulating your brain into thinking a certain way, causing you to behave in a way that works in their favour - you won't even be aware it's happening. (You put a boundary in place or challenge them and you will get to witness the volatility and full extent of the chaos that the Narcissist can cause!) You learn to comply in order to keep the peace. You may be so used to living according to their demands that you haven't even noticed that you have changed: that your identity, personality and autonomy have been eroded and stripped, and that you have become more and more isolated from your own support network.
It might be that you are well aware that you are in a difficult relationship and recognise that you have been so emotionally harmed and controlled by the Narcissist that you feel unable to speak up, and just suffer in silence because you don't know of any other option.
Either way, the reason that you remain in such a relationship is due to something called Trauma Bonding. This is when your brain is tricked to endure the bad times because of the good times, and is a result of chemical addiction in the brain. It is a huge part of Narcissistic Abuse and very challenging to resolve without specialist support - particularly in the long term and for sustainable recovery. (It is very common for victims to end up with another Narcissist in the future if they haven't resolved the underlying issues.)
You might be feeling that you are being selfish even thinking that there must be more to life, or you might be feeling that you couldn't possibly leave because of your children.
Let me tell you now: you are not selfish to be considering any of it. Let me also tell you that if you are living with a Narcissist you will never be free to live your life, to live wholly as you. NEVER. I know that it might be feeling very hard right now: that you might be feeling confused, anxious, or afraid of what's ahead.
I know this because I have been there.
My Story
I Have Walked in Your Footsteps...
I am a Narcissistic Abuse survivor, having experienced narcissism in romantic, work and familial relationships. You could say I was an expert in the field long before I undertook any training! Most recently I have had the privilege of guiding and supporting my husband on his journey out of Narcissistic Abuse, and into a life of healing, freedom and joy.
As a result of this and other experiences of Narcissistic Abuse, and in addition to the lack of support available, I particularly specialise in men's recovery from Narcissistic Abuse. Men are not often given the opportunity to talk, and often still feel that they need to keep their emotions to themselves, due to embarrassment, not wanting to appear weak, or societal "norms".
I am deeply passionate about supporting people out of these toxic relationships, through the difficult times, and showing them that there is light at the end of the tunnel. My husband and I are living proof of this!
What you’re facing isn’t an ordinary situation: it’s actually a battle for your sanity, your safety, and your freedom. Walking into this fight without support is like stepping onto a battlefield unarmed. You will need emotional strategy, clarity, and strength.
No matter where you are on your journey, whether you feel stuck in the relationship, are just out of it, have been out for some time, or are just plain confused and lost as to exactly where you are...I am here to guide you through to the life of freedom that you so deserve.
I will give you the information you need to understand your personal situation, the tools you need to navigate the path and break your patterns, and the support you will require all the way through the journey, to ensure a lasting and sustainable change.